|To read the first three parts of our new story click here.|
I didn't really know where to begin. I knew our two main choices were domestic adoption and international adoption. And I knew within those choices there were other choices. For domestic, we could do foster to adopt, private adoption or agency adoption. For international, we had many countries to choose from. I was totally overwhelmed. All I felt like God had said was, "Just look into adopting," but I didn't even know where to look!
I started making a list of people I knew who had adopted - both domestically and internationally. My hope was that by hearing people's stories, someone's story might sound like our own. I talked to the awesome Kim Stewart and she gave me the name of a few different agencies to start with.
|Lila and Kim's daughter, Lia - adopted from China.|
So I decided to talk to both departments and see what I could learn. Just for grins, I spoke with the woman in charge of Ethiopia adoptions and learned that the average age of children being adopted out of Ethiopia was 12-18 months and that Ethiopia requires your child to be at least two years older than the child you adopt. If we chose to go the Ethiopia route, she advised that we wait until Lila was at least two before even beginning the process.
Now remember, this was January so Lila was just over a year old. The thought of waiting a WHOLE YEAR to really dive into these questions again just didn't feel right. I didn't want to wait until next winter only to realize that adoption wasn't a good fit for our family and miss our optimum timing for getting pregnant with Lila's brother or sister. Those things all weighed heavy on us, so it seemed the most logical choice was to rule out international adoption and begin pursuing domestic adoption.
So, with the international/domestic question answered, the next step was to try to find an agency.
Check in tomorrow for part five!